Double Standards and Unrealistic Expectations of Human Beings

I was reading a guy's blog, watching movies and then watching a bunch of stand up this morning, because I have no job. Over and over there were male comedians referring to sluts and whores. Women who give it up too quick. "Why are women surprised when they give it up the same night and don't get a call the next day??" Umm...you gave it up also. Am I supposed to lose interest in the guy because he fucked me? No, it's acceptable behavior for men. Are men saying that if they REALLY like a woman they aren't going to sleep with them? No, if there's a chance they can get laid, more than likely they will. But then the responsibility falls back on the female to say no, act like a "lady" and hold off on sleeping with a guy. You know what I think? It's bullshit. If a man really likes a woman, it's not going to matter whether she fucked him the first time around or the fifth. It's an excuse and a cop out for not calling women that the guy just really isn't interested in. Be a man and own up to the fact that you just wanted to get laid, you had no real interest in the woman in the first place. But we're supposed to play this game, this back and forth, push/pull, take me on a few dates before I let you between my legs. It's really just an obnoxious game because I know pretty quickly whether I want to sleep with you or not. I'm not going to make some poor guy I have no intention of fucking take me out on multiple dates and on the same hand, I'm not going to force myself to wait a month or longer of hanging out with someone I have an instant connection with to see what our sexual chemistry is like. That's just wasting time. I make quick decisions about whether I want to actually date someone or not. I don't give it up on the first date, that's not enough time to make a judgment, but I'm not waiting to find out he sucks in bed or we just don't click sexually. Sex is way too important to me. There are men I have no intention of dating, ever, but I'm incredibly attracted to them. They are friends with benefits, when I'm single. Then there are men I can actually see myself having a real relationship with, so I hold off a little with them to build some sort of basis, a friendship. But if you don't give it up quick enough you're a prude, too fast and you're a slut. Do men have to worry about this shit? Do they have to stress about when the right time is or if they should or will she think of me differently if we sleep together too soon??? NO!
I know that this subject is a reoccurring theme in my blog and for good reason. I'm forced to think about it every day as a female. I see it in television, movies, books and advertisements. I just watched “What’s Your Number?” this morning and I liked part of the message. (Aside from the, “The sexy playboy guy in your life that you like is totally going to change his ways because you’re different, you’re the one” bullshit). She, in comparison to the other women in the film, had a high number of sexual/dating partners and was judging herself harshly for it. In the end my favorite line was, “I’m a jobless slut and I want to be with someone who loves me for it.“ I loved the movie but it did get me thinking, once again and judging myself/other women/men/society once again. It's a constant balancing act between slut and prude. It's stressful and takes energy I just don't prefer to put into it. Why can't women be as basic and simple as men? If she wants to sleep with you...let her sleep with you! Then continue getting to know her. I guess it also comes down to the chase. There's no real chase after that, not sexually anyways. You've had it. Maybe you don't want it anymore. But there's the other part of the chase. Now make an effort to get her interested in more. The same way we have to put all this effort into our appearance, listening to you guys, responding appropriately. Trying to be the perfect mix of intelligent but flirty, sexy but serious and all the while stressing the hell out about whether or not you guys are going to ask us on another date. Just writing about it is making me tired. There are so many restrictions, rules, guidelines and games. Skip the judgmental ideas society has brainwashed you with your entire life and think for yourself. If she's the kind of woman you can see yourself with in a real way, don't make the timing of sex a make it or break it issue.

Now that I've ranted, I'm going to bake brownies and get everything ready for dinner for this insane family of mine...